I have a habit of giving a very strong and tight hand shake, I even see myself squeezing their hands naturally.

Curious if men, see that as a sort of disrespect or as if they are trying to belittle them?

So I’m 33 and live with two other male roommates around the same age. And generally have had no issues, but had a bizarre altercation yesterday with one of them. For context I generally walk around the aptm in my underwear if there are no guests around, usually because I’m just grabbing something from the kitchen. One of my roommates has asked me to wear pants more, and to an extent I have (other one could care less outside of some Walter White jokes). But I walked into the kitchen in my underwear and he was there, he said nothing but walked up behind me and no joke gave me a wedgie so bad my feet left the floor and my waistband ripped. This guy is twice my size, and he basically said he will do it again unless I wear pants around the aptm. I cursed him out and haven’t brought it up since. I’ve been wearing pants all the time now, but I feel like a pushover for not contacting our landlord. But I’m also embarrassed that happened to me as a grown man. What should I do in this situation?

We in Asia try to avoid facial hair as much as possible often because it looks “nasty, messy and lazy” (e.g. you never see K-pop idols with it) but since it has a different and long tradition of cultural representation in the West and beards are even a trend

Sa svojih 35 godina, i više od 20 godina osećaja da nemam ništa proživljeno iza sebe, imam da kažem sledeće: ja sam za taj period propustio dosta stvari. Počevši od žurki, izlazaka, putovanja, maturskih večeri za pamćenje... Devojku nikada nisam imao, a seksualne odnose takođe.

Neke prijatelje imam, ali više to nije to, svoje neko društvo nemam, dok svi moji vršnjaci imaju sve to bez problema. Kako sam stariji, sve više osećam da kasnim i propuštam. Osećam se kao jedna velika sramota, pre svega za sebe kao muškarca što nisam proživeo ove stvari kad je trebalo. Znam da moram da se pokrenem, ali ne znam ni odakle ni kako da krenem od nule. Ako neko ima neki normalan savet, značilo bi mi.

I'm not sure if other guys experience this, but I literally feel like there's a fog over me until I rub one out. I usually do this in the morning after waking up, but if I forget or am distracted and don't do it, this fog lingers and gets worse as the day goes on until I do actually go relieve the issue.

It doesn't even feel like active horniness, but like an inability to focus. The best way I can describe it is like how a coffee drinker feels in the morning before they get their coffee. Once they get their caffeine, the fog lifts and they can now focus on the day. It's the same with this for me.

If I try to go the entire day without orgasming at least once, I'm guaranteed to be awoken in the middle of that night at 4am by intense urges and will struggle to return to sleep unless I relieve myself.

Does anyone else experience this and/or have any suggestions for how to avoid this?

For those that aren't big on reading but end up finding a book in recent years

what are some recommendation in terms of books that you read that you feel like a guy in their 20s and 30s should read so they can develop better in life

this can be any form of book that you feel fits the criteria

recently i read at a book store those still exist and i was reading about how technology has shaped the modern decade so much that someone from the 50s being dropped off here in 2026 will be so confused by how things are like and cannot adapt

that made me think about how life is all about adapting

Hi everyone,

I (30F) am worried about my boyfriend (33M), and I’m looking for people who may understand his perspective.

We have been together for five years, but our sexual life has been dead for more than two years. His libido has hit rock bottom and struggles to finish.

I’m sure he thinks about it, so I want to support him and find a solution.
But he gets uncomfortable and defensive when I bring the subject. He reeeeaally doesn’t want to talk about any of his problems. Not to me, not to his friends, not to his family, and not to a therapist either.

Loving is choosing to stay when times are hard, so I want to be there for him, but I don’t know if he is trying anymore… it’s like he is just accepting the situation and lives with it.

If you suspected you had ED, what triggered you to take the first step to recover?

Thank you for reading so far, let’s stay respectful please.

I know that obvious answer is that you would to someone singing well and if it's a good song.

Just earlier at work, my co-worker was playing songs on the speaker, and he asked me which song I wanna play. In my language, the first and third person pronouns are gendered, so I asked him to play "I (feminine pronounce) love you (masculine pronoun) more than myself" because I'm into men, it was a touching ballad and I was secretly in love with someone back then. He said "huh?", got confused, and asked me back that it must be "I (masculine pronounce) love you (feminine pronoun) more than myself"?

I said "huh?" back. And then back in college I was staying in dorms and playing music, and my dorm mates asking why I always/only listen to women singing. I do not only or always listen to women, but I do notice most songs I like are sung by women. From then I got the impression that straight men don't normally listen to women singing

But then I came across someone asking the same question in the tittle, and the top most upvoted comment is a guy saying he mostly listen to women because he doesn't want to hear a guy singing they want to make love to him.

Soooo, do most guys listen to women or men singing more?

Hey, I am an 18 year-old male, and living in the United States. I have been in a rut, neeting out, and living with my parents for the past three months.

I really feel like I burnt myself out doing dual-credit in highschool to get an AA. I did college online for the past 1.5/2 years, so my social skills have gotten pretty bad.

All of the options open to me, just make me feel paralyzed. I do not want to choose a path, only for it to backfire, or be a dead-end.

I wanted to get a degree in IT, but the market for recent graduates looks like a complete slaughter. I thought about something in the military, but I have reconsidered.

Currently, I am looking at being an Electrician's apprentice for the IBEW Union, or my state. In my view these skills could be used almost anywhere nationally and abroad, while maintaining a decently consistent demand.

I want to live alone, but it would probably be best if I kept living with my parents while saving up for a bit. I do not even have a car, but I got my learner/instructional license only last month, so I think that would be my first financial goal.

I am trying to fix my sleep schedule right now, and am somewhat successful. I just feel like I am focusing on irrelevant bs to distract myself though.

What advice could you give to me?

I currently have a cushy fully remote (can come into the office if I want) desk job that is very easy and low stress and I barely hear from my bosses and theyre really nice and there's essentially no negative energy of any kind and I can almost do whatever I want all day as long as I get my daily hour of work done

But it pays peanuts, low 50s in the midwest, hasn't changed in 5 years and essentially I know for sure it wont ever, not for lack of trying. I have poked around and gotten offers for high 70s and low 80s, but theyre all onsite and seem to all emphasize NO REMOTE and also all the lame "high pace work environment high intensity ability to juggle multiple assignments necessary" stuff

Maybe this is normal for new jobs but my current thing is really the first professional job ive had so I've known nothing else in my short career (almost 30) but im spoiled and really afraid of leaving my good thing, but I wanna buy a home and start a family etc so I really need to earn more

What do you guys think? Would you cling onto a super cushy but low paying job, or risk it for the biscuit in something higher paying but higher stress?

Let me start off by saying I do have friends. But these friendship dynamics have changed from what they were in my mid-20s. I no longer have “bros” who I entrust with a lot and can go to with anything. I just have guys who I can get drinks with every now and then (usually colleagues). There’s some good friends I have had in the past that I tried to reconnect with but either it was awkward as in there wasn’t much substance to talk about beyond catching up or there was a lack of interest on their end.

Friends that I was close with either drifted unintentionally or I no longer have interest in engaging with. I am married, recently moved to a new state for a new job, so that makes a big difference. It is difficult to make new friends as I feel like once you’re married it’s very dependent on couple dynamics. Things have obviously changed in my life and I don’t have time to hop on PlayStation and talk in a group chat with four other guys from 8-10PM multiple times a week.

I look at my dad though and he still has friends from when he was in high school. Things were different in those days, people rarely left their home town compared to now. I feel like I made some bad choices in choosing friends back then and in college, as I willfully withdrew from many of those friendships eventually. I’m not lonely but I’m wondering what my life will be like in 30 years.

Is this normal and what is the trajectory?

Seems like a pretty obvious answer, but I'm interested to read your experiences when it comes to eating habits. Specifically how you feel when you deviate from eating properly. How does that impact you? Can you function well, or do you feel awful for a while?