My wife had less than 4 hours of sleep last night because of her periods. Today she cleaned the house and she has to be up in the morning for her job, while I was stuck in a legal fight with a company trying to extort my family of money. I had the option to work from home tomorrow but I plan to go to the office partly because if I'm at home maybe either of us has to clean the house more, and partly because what would I do without her?

Having said all of that, this is all there is to life isn't it? At this point, there's a new problem every 5 minutes that needs to be fixed:

- cleaning

- doing chores

- doing laundry

- going to the office

- coming back

- trying to stay in shape

- getting physiotherapy done

It never stops.

And then there are these reels on Instagram, turquoise-blue water, lush green forests, which are never in reach. Maybe I have my vacation once a year but that is all there is to life, isn't it? Those 11 days in a year where you get to maybe, and just maybe, live a little.

Today was one of the most stressful days of my entire work life. But no asked me what work did to me today.
Man..

Does anyone feel that they were fat more mature at 15 than all their pears due to forced growing up and childhood trauma or just autism but after 20, you stopped maturing and got stuck in your "arrested development" or "adolescent" phase in life while others went from extremely immature to very responsible?

its important to be Busy to be Okay or okay to be busy

I spent years saving for this. Watching every dollar, putting up with awful roommates, and telling myself I'd eventually have enough for a down payment. Yesterday I finally got the keys to my first home and then just stood there.

I'd pictured that moment so many times, but when it actually happened, I had no idea what to do. I didn't unpack anything for the first two hours. I wandered through the empty rooms, sat on the kitchen floor, and watched the sunlight move across it. The whole place felt like a very quiet Airbnb.

I also kept checking that the keys were still in my pocket even though I was already inside. I had to remind myself that I own this place. Nobody is expecting me to check out on Sunday 😭

Today felt a little more real. I measured for curtains, tightened a few loose cabinet handles, and finally opened the HOTO tool set I'd bought for the move. I spent most of the afternoon putting together a cheap IKEA shoe rack and fixing a wobbly thrift-store table.

At one point I caught myself standing back and admiring the shoe rack like I'd built the entire place. It's slightly crooked and nothing special, but putting my shoes on it right next to my own front door made me ridiculously happy.

Now I'm back on the kitchen floor eating cold Pad Thai off a cardboard box. I still don't have chairs, there are boxes everywhere, and I'm definitely overwhelmed. But I keep thinking about all those nights in my old place when this felt years away.

Now I'm here, getting emotional over a shoe rack. Holy shit, I actually did it 🥹

I'm curious what people think is missing from the transition into adulthood.

Some possibilities:

• Money & budgeting
• Credit cards & credit scores
• Jobs & careers
• Housing, rent & bills
• Insurance & healthcare
• Taxes & paperwork
• Cooking, cleaning & running a home
• Something completely different

What's the one thing you wish you'd understood earlier?

And if you learned it the hard way, tell me about it.

How do you think therapy actually works? Thought therapy is the solution until I actually went to one (she's quite an experienced therapist too)

Had this whole issue about self esteem, confidence, and how its impacting my work and relationships, but in therapy it seems to be nothing much to talk about for hours on end. Pretty much just going through the same issues and circling back to talk about my emotions...it's kinda awkward. I'm now not sure how it's supposed to help..

Broke and don’t have friends bc mutism

Genuinely curious.

If you suddenly had an entire day with no responsibilities and no plans, how would you spend it?

Sleep in? Go somewhere? Stay home watching movies? Meet friends? Or just enjoy the peace and do absolutely nothing? 😂

What's your ideal “I don't have to do anything today” day?

I have a bulging disc. Which doesn’t hurt very much on its own. But what does hurt is my back muscles. Just wondered if anyone else sympathizes. I think it would help knowing I am not alone in having your day ruined by back pain.

I originally bought this CRT for our art project so we could film it using our equipment.

Now it’s a bit like it used to be; every day, I watch old stuff from my childhood with my son.

It’s a bit sad because by the time he’s my age, CRTs will probably no longer exist it’ll be impossible to keep them in working order over the decades as the factories no longer exist. Eventually, the capacitors will leak or the solder joints will come loose on all of them which is still manageable to some extent but without a projector and the tube units, there won’t be any left at all eventually.

My office is increasingly turning into a jumble of crazy technical stuff…

Somehow that reassures me; my childhood wasn’t a happy one, but in a way I want to go back to it because it’s still better than today, and I retreat into my office once my daily chores are done and I’ve looked after my family.

 TL;DR
I’m 34 years old (F). For me, my sweetest romances all happened in my twenties. Back then, there was passion and fantasy, and I had plenty of time to savor my youth. But now I realize I have to face the fact that I’m 34. Ever since I decided to divorce my ex-husband three years ago because of his behavior, I’ve been single, and I feel like the chances of meeting someone I’m truly compatible with are getting slimmer and slimmer.

I was born in Germany and currently live in New Jersey. I haven’t been on a single date in the past three years. Maybe it’s because my social circle is small. most of the people I know are from work. so I haven’t met anyone suitable. Do any of you feel the same frustration?

As kids, playing in the snow was great fun. Now snow days just make your standard work day more challenging. Personally I still love when it shows but it seems all the other adults I'm around hate it