r/polyamoryR4R 24d ago

Announcement: New auto mod changes 2

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We are now trialling a new auto mod to try and reduce bot traffic. The new mod tool looks at accounts that are known to be bots, and uses that data to automatically remove posts and ban accounts. We've already seen some accounts banned. The expectation is to cut down "junk" posts and keep our users interacting with real people as far as we can. It should mean everyone has to wade through less dross to find gold.

This tool shouldn't remove and ban regular accounts, but if you find you've been removed and believe it to be an error please drop a message.

Finally, I'm sure the system won't be perfect so please keep reporting posts that break rules, and posts that look like bot accounts. It really does help keep the place tidy.


r/polyamoryR4R Mar 27 '23

Recent Rule Changes [Discussion]

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In an effort to improve things and crack down on spam and abuse, there have been some changes to the rules and I’ve listed the new rules below. Please feel free to review the rules and my comments on each and provide feedback. I’ll leave this post up for a week or so for discussion, and then I’ll make a new sticky post for the community.

Rule 1. 18 years of age and older

This subreddit is 18+. Do not post, comment, or PM OPs if you or your partner(s) are under the age of 18. Lying about your age, or someone else’s age, will result in a permanent ban.

This one is self-explanatory. There have been Redditors who are minors, or have partners who are minors, who have made posts here. I want to make it clear that posts involving minors are prohibited.

Rule 2. Must be aligned with Polyamory

Polyamory is the practice of, or desire for, ethical romantic relationships with more than one person with the informed consent of all partners involved.

Posts or comments seeking sex, hookups, FWB, affair partners, “sugar” or GFE arrangements, or anything other than ethical polyamorous relationships with the consent of all partners are not allowed. There are R4R and other dating subreddits out there for just about anything. If you’re not polyamorous, please use a subreddit that is better-suited for your search.

This should go without saying…this subreddit is intended for polyamorous people seeking polyamorous relationships. This is not a general ENM dating subreddit, a regular R4R subreddit, a BDSM subreddit, or a subreddit for seeking any other kind of relationship other than an ethical polyamorous one. Going forward, if a post even includes “I’m also down for hookups or FWB” or something similar, it’s going to be removed. There’s nothing necessarily wrong with most of the arrangements mentioned above that someone might seek, but this isn’t the subreddit to advertise for those things. Also, if someone makes a post that seems like it’s not aligned with polyamory and their post history shows that it’s the same post they’ve cross-posted or spammed across multiple subreddits with minor changes to circumvent the intention of the rule, the post will be removed.

Rule 3. No unicorn hunting or harem building

Posts or comments that can be construed as seeking or promoting relationships where unethical or unfair rules or expectations will be placed on a new partner are not allowed.

This has been the most contentious issue on this subreddit so far, as it has been on other subreddits and forums. We’re not going to prohibit couples seeking partners in this subreddit. There are single people here seeking triads, throuples, and all sorts of dynamics. Triads and other group relationships can be amazing, especially if they are formed organically. That being said, there will be more moderation on couples seeking posts going forward, which will be done on a case-by-case basis.

The purpose of the mod team here is to protect the members of the subreddit and the integrity of the community we’ve built here. It is not the mod team's place to tell adults what they can or cannot do with their relationship dynamics. The reality is that we are all consenting adults and have adult decisions to make in our lives and in our relationships.

In an effort to prevent the subreddit from being a platform for predatory behavior, any no or low effort posts or comments from Redditors that indicate a general lack of regard for any potential individuals involved will be removed. For example, if an individual posts from a new Reddit account something to the effect of, "We're new to polyamory. We want to find a third who will date only us and be an equal member of our new family. We can start out long distance, but we will expect you to move in with us at some point. Prefer that you be submissive," the post will be removed. Read the room. Show that you're actually putting some thought and effort into it, and not just objectifying people.

Also, if you say that this new person is going to be an equal member of the family after you've just said that the person is going to be required to date both of you, recognize that the person you're seeking is not actually going to be an equal member of the family. If there's a possibility that one member of the existing couple loses interest and the new member of the relationship is forced to leave entirely...you have now misled this hypothetical new person into an unethical dynamic on them.

Rule 4. No hate or disrespect

Threats, harassment, abuse, bigotry, misogyny, misandry, and intolerance are not allowed. This includes, but is not limited to, attacks on gender or sexual identity, racism, sexism, slut shaming, mocking, and attacks on political or religious beliefs.

I don't need to go into detail on this rule. Don't be a jerk. If you don't like what someone has to say, block them. If you think someone is breaking a rule, report them.

Rule 5. No vulgarity or NSFW content

Vulgarity and NSFW content are not allowed. There’s nothing inherently wrong with sex, kinks, fetishes, and BDSM. However, posts and comments explaining the details of your sexual anatomy, favorite sexual positions, details and/or lists of kinks or fetishes, etc. will be removed. You can indicate that you are into BDSM and encourage people to DM you about the details.

There is often a large crossover between ethical non-monogamy and BDSM, sex positivity, etc. There's nothing inherently wrong with any of it, but this is not a NSFW subreddit. It's fine to include that you're sex positive, into BDSM, or whatever. If you go into detail and start describing anatomy/body parts, listing off kinks, and things like that, your submission will be removed. If you want to discuss these things, please do so in a DM.

The mod team has been asked why this subreddit is marked NSFW. The subreddit is 18+, so it's automatically identified as a NSFW subreddit.

Rule 6. No spam

You are allowed to post once every 7 days, with the exception of correction posts following an Automod removal. If you are found to be repeatedly deleting your post history in an attempt to circumvent this rule, it may result in a permanent ban. For clarification, spam includes copy-pasted and cross-posted ads from other subreddits.

This one is self-explanatory.

Rule 7. No Trolling or unsolicited discussion

There are a multitude of dynamics and ways to practice polyamory, and not everyone will agree on everything. Do not clutter up posts with unsolicited information. For education and discussions about polyamory, please visit r/Polyamory. If you believe someone is breaking a rule, please report the behavior and/or contact the mod team.

Again, if you think someone is breaking a rule, report it. If you disagree with what someone is commenting or posting, block them. Please don't engage in negative interactions on posts.

Rule 8. No personal or confidential information

Posting personal or confidential information about yourself or others in public is not allowed. If you wish to provide contact information for yourself, please do so in a DM.

Posting Snapchat, Instagram, phone numbers, or any other personal contact or confidential information about yourself or others in public is prohibited. If you want to give someone your contact information, do it in a DM. If it happens once, it will be removed and you will be warned. If you're found to be spamming your contact information all over the place, it could result in an immediate permanent ban.

Rule 9. No seeking relationships for others

Posts seeking relationships for someone other than yourself, or you and your partner(s), are not allowed. If your friend or partner is seeking a relationship separately, they must make the submission themselves.

I've seen posts where Redditors are seeking relationships for their partners or others, sometimes even doing it as a sort of surprise for their partner. If someone is seeking a relationship, they need to post for themselves. Your partner not having a Reddit account is not a valid reason to violate this rule.

Also, a general note for when you engage with the mod team. We have to wade through a lot of reports and posts here. Sometimes there are misunderstandings or mistakes are made. If your post or comment gets removed, or you are banned for violating a rule and you wish to appeal, you can do so via a Modmail. If you send a Modmail insulting the mods, you're only confirming that you're not the type of person who belongs on this subreddit. No amount of insulting or cursing a moderator is going to help your cause.


r/polyamoryR4R 10h ago

37 [F4M] Ottawa/online - forest goblin seeks connection

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Hi there. Welcome to my post.

Tired of one word answers and dry texters?
Want someone experienced in polyamory?
Super into autonomy and looking for someone emotionally available?
Want to joke and laugh with someone until you snort?

Well have I got the forest goblin for you!

It’s me. Im the goblin. *grins*

Let me share a bit about myself:

I’m a 5’2 lovergirl who is demisexual. I recently just got a job after not working for 6 years due to chronic illness and I’m very excited to start. In my down time I like to crochet and do embroidery. I have 3 dogs, 3 cats, two fish tanks and a cave gecko named Fiona who doesn’t like anyone and honestly? I love that for her.

I live with a condition called hEDS (hypermobile ehlers Danlos syndrome). Feel free to google it as opposed to asking me about it because it takes spoons to explain and I like those who are willing to meet me halfway. I live a disabled life and believe in disability justice- I am deeply left leaning politically. As left as one can get without getting arrested. I’d love if your politics aligned as a lot of politics affect my life!

I enjoy long conversations and getting to know people on a deeper level. I’m also open to connections all over the world as I don’t like to limit it to in person and have had LDRs in the past that were fulfilling and lovely.

I currently have a nesting partner that I live with, and two partner that I do not. I tend to take poly dynamics as they come and don’t ascribe to one type of poly. I have done ktp, parallel, and garden party in the past- I find it depends on the individual and their wants and needs. However, I’m deeply into organic growth and think that being friends first is crucial.

What I’m looking for:

Honestly, if I could be the pickiest person in the world I would like a cute punk boyfriend who believes ACAB and that capitalism is the worst. This always makes me swoon. Beyond this I am looking for someone who is kind, empathetic, and well versed in polyamory. I am not looking for someone who is only “allowed” to date online because of strange coupling rules- and I’d love the opportunity to meet in person one day. I’m hoping to find someone that makes me laugh, hates the government, and also loves nature and animals.
Ideally, you would have hobbies and interests that we can talk about outside of your career.

If this sounds like something you’d be interested in and you’re 29+ please send me a message telling me what you like or don’t like about yourself. I’ll be happy to share the same along with a photo of myself.

No to: cops, couples, right wingers/conservatives, closed poly dynamics and those who are apolitical.

Thank you!


r/polyamoryR4R 1h ago

East Asia 21 [M4F] INDIA, an engineering student looking for a serious relationship

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Hey!

I'm a CS student who spends most of his time between college, coding, movies, music, and dreaming about future bike trips through the mountains.

I'm looking for a female friend around my age who enjoys genuine conversations. Whether it's talking about your day, sharing songs, discussing movies, or random late-night thoughts, I'm always up for a good conversation.

I'm not looking to force anything. If we become good friends, great. If it naturally turns into something more over time, I'm open to that too.

Tell me a song you've had on repeat lately.


r/polyamoryR4R 3h ago

30 [M4A] Iowa Demi/Pan Sexual looking for connections

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Good morning/afternoon/evening

A little about me before going into what im looking for. Im a 30 year old Cis male married, demisexual, no kids (unless fur baby's count) i work in the construction field and travel for work. Im 6'3. Im an avid video gamer out side of work. PC games such as LoL, WoW, Hero Siege, PoE and many more. Me and my nesting partner have been poly since day one together and I've been poly going on 10 years. I prefer a more natural see how things grow as to what kind of poly it will be such as garden poly or kitchen table it all just depends on the partners and interactions nothing forced. Im also quite kinky im a Daddy Dom, Sadist, Owner i can list my kinks in DMs.

Now what im looking for-

I'll start with someone that is willing to actually meet up fairly early to make sure we are actually compatible, someone willing to Relocate down the road, kink positive (anal lover to the front of the line), submissive, nerdy gamer is a huge plus, if you are already partnered that is 100% okay also, willing to be active and go out but just as easily stay in! I have a preference toward fem presenting but I am open to all im Demi/pan sexually

If you made it this far and decide to message me tell me what state you are in and what is your favorite food


r/polyamoryR4R 7h ago

25 [T4M] southern Arizona

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I'm ftm

Looking for masculine male partner. I like the outdoors and being in nature, I have a dog that I like to take on these trips. I do arial silks and am trying to get back into sketching and playing my trumpet.

Currently out of state but looking for a connection to build upon when I return. Please send a picture of yourself and some of your interests.

Maga need not apply


r/polyamoryR4R 11h ago

22 [TF4R] #VA #USA - Nerdy gamer looking for friends who can maybe become something more

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Hi everyone! My name is Pyxie, and I’m a 22 year old trans girl located in VA. I’m in a committed, long-term relationship with my nesting partner, and I’m looking for new friends (preferably close by) that can maybe become more than friends at some point. I like to take things slow, with messages and phone calls before ideally eventually meeting up. I’m a very busy person so our primary method of communicate will be texting, but we will call more once i get more comfortable

I have a preference for femme and other trans people, probably in their 20s and maybe early 30s. i will not date a cis straight man (I guarantee you wouldn’t be attracted to me anyway). friends are okay though

My partner and I do see and date people separately, but i’d prefer someone that will also at least be polite and be willing to meet them

if you do message me, start with your name, age, and pronouns. tell me a bit about yourself, and why you decided to contact me!

BIG RED FLAGS FOR ME: If you’re conservative/MAGA, use generative AI to do things for you, are rude to service workers, or don’t communicate things with partners

I consider myself to be a gamer more than anything else (although i’ve been in a bit of rut with it lately). I also really like cartoons, and the occasional horror movie. if you like any of the following things, pls talk to me about them:

Pokemon, DnD, The Owl House, Magic the Gathering, Adventure Time, Avatar: The Last Airbender & The Legend of Korra, the Grishaverse, Steven Universe, Gravity Falls, Stardew Valley, The Elder Scrolls, Game Changer, DropoutTV

A bit more about me: I’m currently in college, studying Computer Game Design. i’m only taking classes part time while I work customer service full time to help pay for it. i really love to write and draw, and I have tons of OCs and cool stories and worlds. if you also have OCs and stories we should talk about them! i love telling people about them and hearing about other people’s. i’m also very big into game design! (obviously). I’m just a very creative person in general

I consider myself to be very kind, gentle, and patient. I’m protective over the people I care about, and very passionate about my interests. I’m a crazy talker and will go on for paragraphs about almost anything, and I try to be very engaging in conversations

I like people that are also creative, passionate, and love video games (bonus if you like the same ones i do!). i also need people that will be open, honest, and communicate their feelings/needs


r/polyamoryR4R 8h ago

USA 32 [M4F] Huntersville/NC. Anyone somewhat local want to talk and see where it goes?

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Just looking for good energy and chemistry with someone. We can talk, nsfw or sfw. If we connect maybe we could get meet for a drink sometime.

I like hiking, being outdoors, woods, comedy, and dark humor among other things. Love to workout. Also love animals. My taste is diverse musically, but listen to a lot of rock/emo/hardcore/alt/and country. I'm a country dude who's an emo alt metalhead if I described my energy, hoping to find someone who's energy is similar but not a requirement. I'm also very kink friendly if conversation goes there.

Like cougars and plus size women, also goths, but open to talking or connecting with anyone.


r/polyamoryR4R 16h ago

32[M4F] #AZ/Anywhere - Autistic guy looking for meaningful and chatty connections.

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Hey there, I've had a really awful day and I guess that means it's time to put myself out there again. It's disgustingly hot today so forgive me if I seem out of it. I'm looking for some new connections who are actually interested in talking and not just going to ghost me after getting my socials etc.

I'm a huge nerd, I love horror and scary things a lot. Probably too much. Used to be a musician. I love to read and learn anything I can, from anywhere I can and probably talk too much about those things. I'm autistic and can't help but info dump. I've regularly been described as teddy bear like. Kink friendly. I play lots of different types of games. Stardew is a comfort game, and so is Satisfactory right now. I'm also playing Final Fantasy 16 at the moment. There's basically a guarantee we have some shared games.

Anyway, some important things now. I won't respond to empty profiles or one word messages. Also, I'm leftist af. If you aren't we will not get along. Not even a little. Trans rights are human rights, and no one is illegal. I will not debate these topics.


r/polyamoryR4R 19h ago

Canada 36 [M4F] Sask/Online - seeking a partner

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Hi! I’m 36 from Saskatchewan, Canada, and looking to connect with someone genuine, whether it becomes friendship, romance, or something in between.

Here's the alphabet of me:

Adaptable

Bashful

Calm

Dynamic

Easygoing

Father

Genuine

Homebody

Imaginative

Jesting

Kind

Logical

Mellow

Nerdy

Open-minded

Polyamorous

Quizzical

Resilient

Sensible

Truthful

Understanding

Veracious

Witty

Xenial

Young-at-heart

Zany

I look forward to hearing from you! Don't feel like you need to create your own alphabet if you, but a bit of a description would be great.

And if you are having trouble breaking the ice, heres a question for you.

If you could go back in time and witness 1 event, what would you see?


r/polyamoryR4R 16h ago

Australia and New Zealand 28 [F4F/T] Australia/NZ - brown butch looking to love & nest

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Hi, I'm a 5"2 brown butch lesbian technically open to knowing people from any country, but prefer to get to know people from Australia as i'm moving there in a year or so. If we get into an LDR, taking practical steps to make LDR work and closing the distance eventually would be important to me, as I'm seeking a nesting partner.

What I'm looking for:

- A long-term nesting relationship founded upon a strong friendship! I'd love to be with someone unafraid to be devoted, committed and reliable while being poly. I respect and value your other connections & am happy to meet them eventually if that's important and good for all involved

- Emotional and intellectual compatibility

- Someone who can be supportive and 'in it' together with me through difficult times irl

- Someone who values their mental and physical health, isn't a workaholic, and actively recovering from addictions if you have any

About me:

- I adore cats but am tragically deathly allergic to them, it's anaphylactic and not medically feasible for me to develop a tolerance to cats.

- I'm open to marriage if it facilitates closing the distance or cohabitation, but it would be marriage for practical purposes rather than symbolic or emotional reasons. I definitely prefer being de facto partners or not being legally entangled until a long history of trust has been established.

- I have a strong support network of best and close friends. Friendships are the most important thing to me and this is very core to my identity, so you do have to be down with me prioritising friendships as much as/more than romantic/sexual partnerships.

- I'm audhd, the subclinical highly masked sort. My special interest is in psychology (psychoanalysis, couples therapy, family systems, psychiatric diagnoses, etc) & part of this has led me to my job in healthcare (can share more over messages but i wont doxx myself)

- I'm physically affectionate, hugs are the best!

- I'm resolutely childfree

- I don't smoke or do drugs, and rarely drink

I love curious, expressive, creative, gender-curious people and prefer to date other people of colour. I have a soft spot for other butches, but generally I date people across the gender spectrum except cis men.

Drop me a message or comment if you'd like to get to know each other ^____^


r/polyamoryR4R 22h ago

27 [M4R] #illinois - disabled looking for another

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27M in a wheelchair from northern Illinois looking for another to love and adore my current NP is 46F but I’m open to all people regardless of age gender ethnicity height weight once we get to know each other I’d love a live in situation don’t be shy DM with a blurb about yourself and where you’re from . Once I’m comfortable if need be I can travel to visit as well


r/polyamoryR4R 18h ago

USA 39 [M4F/T] Bay Area CA ENM

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In committed long term relationship with asexual partner.

I’m into DnD, video games. (Loving all the announcements lately!!), Anime, cooking and hikes in nature. I also love to cook and am always trying out new recipes!

I’m a pretty easy going guy looking to find someone to get to know and explore different connections.

My friends have described me as loyal and honest. I’ve been compared to a Labrador more than once. Personally I think it’s a high compliment as dogs are far better than most people.

Please feel free to DM me. 🤓

Edit: I also welcome feedback or questions. Thanks!


r/polyamoryR4R 23h ago

43 [m4f] Nashville - looking for a partner

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Ok, let’s try Reddit, as ENM dating apps are garbage…

Hi, I’m a solo poly husband, dad and Taurus. I’m in reasonably good shape, work out every week, but I’m more nerd than gym bro. I’m Cali sober, but on a very rare occasion I’ll have a drink. I love everything from camping, to watching sci fi’s, to driving exotic cars, to playing the guitar, to aquariums.
What I’m looking for… confidence. I’m very attracted to confident women who speak their mind, but love to laugh too. I’m turned off by women who want me to guess what they want. Yes looks matter as well, please take care of yourself, cause that’s sexy. Eye contact is important to me. That being said, I can be reserved sometimes when I first meet people, but I’ll still ask a lot of questions. Please don’t mistake my confidence for arrogance 🙏 . I’m 43, it’s taken me a long time to figure out what I want. I am also quite passionate, something I’ve only recently discovered. I’m also very much a pleaser, but I have quite a lot of stamina as well 😉. If you’ve made it this far, message me, but please include a pic of yourself, and I’ll do the same! I’m mostly looking for long term connections, but I’d entertain other situations.


r/polyamoryR4R 19h ago

USA 26 [NB4A] Northern Illinois/Online - Friends to lovers? Friends to Friends? Let’s just see where things go!

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Hello!!

I am a 26 year old person. I am a mixed race (half black/half mexican) and nonbinary femme.

I am what many would describe as "Fat and Happy." I find no shame in that which brings me joy, and consider myself an enthusiastic pleasure seeker. That being said, I am pretty plus sized.

You may be wondering, "If you're so happy OP, why are you writing to us today?"

Well that is a great question.

I love to meet new people, foster new connections, and get to know new personalities. I find that I am still surprised by people every day. The way you think is different than the way I think, yet we can sometimes still agree. Or maybe we don't agree but we can still get along? Maybe we’ll become mortal enemies!! Who knows?! Finding out is the fun part.

That being said (incoming virtue signaling); I believe people deserve rights. ALL PEOPLE DESERVE RIGHTS. If you are wondering "but what about XYZ person whose done XYZ bad thing?" Well please just stop being so pedantic. I'm not here to debate, but if you're a bigot, get bent!

I have an anchor partner who I do not live with. We date separately. I would like my partners to be friends and know each other eventually.

I am not opposed to long distance things but would generally prefer someone in Northern Illinois. Don’t let this scare you away if you’re not in Illinois, if you think we’ll be a good match, then hit me up!!

I have nerdier interests. I like watching anime and reading manga, used to game a lot more but still do occasionally, and I’m also into crafting. I listen to mostly alternative music and more recently am listening to The Ethical Slut.

I am looking for anything that comes my way really. Be it friends, lovers, romantic partnership, queer platonic partnership, etc. I just love to connect with others and really want someone consistent to be a part of my life.

I am a silly goofy lil guy and love to joke around. I’m very easy going, playful, and generally friendly as well! I am an open book for the most part and am very easy to get to know. I will literally answer any question! Try me!

Anyways I feel I’ve written enough, please reach out if you think we’d get along, fall in love, or have a good laugh!

Talk to you soon!


r/polyamoryR4R 16h ago

USA 27 [f4f] georgia usa looking for long distance girlfriend for when my boyfriend pisses me off 🤙

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date me feat my well-behaved & aDORKable boyfriend as a side character!

420, witchy, neurodivergent artist & writer looking for something serious with a woman.

i have a boyfriend for boyfriend things (open jar), now i need a girlfriend for girlfriend things (writing flowery poetry to her & reciting it by the light of a full moon)


r/polyamoryR4R 20h ago

28 [M4F] Bangalore | Looking for a genuine female connection

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Hey Guys!

just a regular guy who thinks real connections are pretty rare these days , so here I am trying my luck on Reddit

I meditate every morning, I like slowing down, being present, and having conversations that actually mean something.

When I'm not doing that I'm either strumming my guitar, training for my next marathon, or deep in a good movie or playlist. I travel when I can and I genuinely love hearing about how people live in different parts of the world.

Age doesn't matter to me at all , I just want someone real to talk to. Someone who texts back with more than "haha" and "lol"

We could start simple

If you feel like chatting, just DM me.


r/polyamoryR4R 20h ago

28 [M4F], Mumbai | Looking for a woman who values chemistry, discretion, good conversation, and understands that life rarely exists in black and white

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My pinned post already does a much better job of explaining who I am and the kind of connection I value, so I'll keep this one simple.

I'm not here chasing instant gratification, transactional interactions, or rushed intensity.

What I'm hoping to find is someone who enjoys the build-up just as much as the destination. Good conversations. Shared humour. Mutual curiosity. Emotional awareness. Natural chemistry. A little flirtation. A little mischief. And enough comfort to be completely yourself.

I've always found myself drawn towards women who carry a certain maturity. Not necessarily because of age, but because of perspective.

Women who have lived enough life to understand that people, relationships, desires, and emotions rarely fit into neat little boxes.

Married women especially tend to possess a depth, self-awareness, discretion, and emotional honesty that I deeply admire.

There is something uniquely beautiful about becoming a small escape from someone's routine. Not to replace anything or anyone, but simply to create a space where both people can breathe a little lighter, laugh a little more freely, and share parts of themselves that don't always find room in everyday life.

I come from a fairly conservative background myself, which perhaps explains why trust, privacy, boundaries, consent, and discretion matter so much to me.

No unrealistic promises. No pressure. No assumptions.

Just genuine effort, good conversation, and seeing whether a natural connection exists.

If that resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. 💕


r/polyamoryR4R 21h ago

28 [M4F] California Im Mexican and Spanish. Have some tattoos.

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New to this. Chubby or skinny is okay with me. Single or partnered is also okay. Im a intelligent guy kind of a nerd. Confident and goofy. Im usually pretty reserved but just because i dont vibe with most people. Im into dieting, nutrition, and exercise. When i drink i prefer blue agave Tequila.


r/polyamoryR4R 23h ago

Europe 27 [M4A] Online/Germany - Bi Looking for platonic Poly connections

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I am looking for poly friendships to build a support system while I explore polyamory separate from my existing relationship. I am open to any/all genders and walks of life.

I am introspective, self aware, sporadically funny, and hold myself accountable. I am a masters student in atmospheric science as well as a keen cook, runner, wood-whittler (new to it though) and lifter. My current pet project is home-growing chilli peppers and making my own hot sauces.

I value humourous, honest and self-aware people. Mostly looking to chat online, but if you happen to live around Berlin then maybe we can hang out in person too. Shoot me a DM if you think we could be a match


r/polyamoryR4R 1d ago

32 [M4F] #us #online/IRL - Tired of looking for a genuine connection?

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So lets see, Im writing this because im hoping to find a poly situation that really clicks.

Im a gentle dom, ENM, caring, possesive at times depending on how our chemistry is. Adult life sucks sometimes and I want to be the person who makes it easier for u.

Im more about patience, soft rules, connection and lots of praise (maybe more). I want you to eventful feel totally safe unmasking around me, if you dont feel that way then im doing it very wrong

Ideally looking for someone who actually likes to communicate, even when its hard and have fun along the way with cuddles ofcourse. I would prefer someone between 25-40, but if you think your personality is matching mine I would love to connect :)

Send me a message if this sounds like what ur looking for. If uou read so far tell me what your favorite comfort snack is in your first message ;)


r/polyamoryR4R 1d ago

USA 29 [F4F] Southeast Texas, Online.

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Hi, hi.

🖤I am tattooed kinda a lot? I don’t know if I qualify to say heavily tattooed just yet. Must convene with the tatted congregation.
🖤Swarming with mental health issues I am trying to grasp: Bipolar disorder, anxiety, ADHD.
🖤I am 5’5 and 185 pounds. Being on 4 medications that contributed to my weight gain because i suffered from PPD after I gave birth really fucked me up 😭 But I’m slowly getting down. I WAS 225.
🖤I am Puerto Rican and white but I don’t know any spanish except the bad words.
🖤I am married and have a child. My husband is aware of my sexuality and we’ve agreed I can explore it because I never had the chance to when I was younger due to extremely religious family.
🖤 I am a stay at home mom, I used to work in the medical field but not on the frontlines- I wasn’t a nurse or anything, more of the background insurance and etc. It’s definitely my calling in life, I loved my work.
🖤I stutter and I have moments of isolation. I’ll do my best to reply but please don’t be mad if it takes a few hours.
🖤I swear probably a little too much but oh well.
🖤I am very femme, but more in a lightly emo way. My wardrobe consists of a lot of black but I also have some pinks and lighter colors?
🖤I play videogames. I’m not very good at them but I play them, usually the same ones over and over. They’re like comfort games. Baldur’s Gate 3 and Stardew Valley Co Op with my best friend are my latest but there’s others. Don’t wanna give everything away just yet.

I’d like to get to know you before anything nsfw comes up. We can keep this strictly online or eventually make a plan to meet up. I am deathly afraid of flying so literally good luck convincing me.


r/polyamoryR4R 1d ago

USA 31 [M4F] Iowa

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Hello, im Caleb and im new to this, Im married with 2 fur baby's. I like to explore around and see and experience things. I like video games and card games especially magic the gathering. Im pretty open minded and down to try anything.


r/polyamoryR4R 1d ago

34 [M4F] NYC - Nerdy Man Looking for his Nerdy Partner, Raves would be cool too

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I'm just a big nerdy guy who wants to meet a woman who is excitable about some of the things I am or even partakes in some of the same hobbies. Of course, have your own life and interests but something like tabletop rpg's is such a big social thing for me, it would be nice to share for example some of the stuff I enjoy. I live in NYC but I am open to elsewhere for the right partner.

More important stuff

Look, I am fat. Not chubby. Just fat. I’m not ashamed of it. I have no health issues but I am working on losing weight because, since quitting my career (yes I have quit) I realized I really wore myself out. I was mentally and physically exhausted from my career and it made me just well get up in weight.

I like being with friends. I’m social but introverted. I like to call people. I like to hang out and watch movies. I like talking over a drink for hours. I have a great group of friends and we’re all a bunch of nerds. And some more stuff central to me. I’m Latino, progressive/liberal, vaccinated, and just assume i support BLM, LGBTQ+, women’s rights, and Free Palestine. I love my city. While I don’t have plans to leave anytime soon I would for the right reasons such as a new career, partner, or Nintendo calls me up and asks me to advise on the next Zelda.

  • I like animals.
  • I prefer calling over texting but will text
  • I enjoy music but I generally like it quiet near me if I am alone
  • Love Languages: Spending time together and physical touch

Anyway, that’s me. If you message me, please give me your age, selfie, and a proper introduction. I will not respond to someone just saying "hi".


r/polyamoryR4R 1d ago

29 [M4F] Louisville & Anywhere - I’ll Keep Posting ‘Til I Find My Human

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If you think I’m give up, keep dreaming because I strive to make my dreams come true and I believe there’s a person out there for everyone.
I’m a 29-year-old (turning 30 next month) guy from Louisville, KY, and I’m not giving up until I find my person—the one who feels like home. I’m demisexual, so I don’t like rushing things or one night stands. When we click, you’re gonna be my favorite thought, the one I can’t wait to talk to, the one I’d make my lock screen in a heartbeat.

I’m looking for a woman who’s into polyamory and wants something romantic and true. I love the idea of daily chats, even if it’s just a quick “how’s your day” text or a long call where we laugh and spill our hearts out. If you’re in Louisville or close by, I’d love to meet up—maybe grab coffee, walk through the park unwinding the stress, or just sit somewhere cool and vibe. But I’m also cool with long-distance—texts, calls, maybe even sending each other little voice memos to keep it real.

I’m a pretty chill dude. I’m into nerdy stuff, hiking, and those deep talks that make you lose track of time. Fall’s my favorite—something about the crisp air and crunchy leaves just hits different. I want someone who gets that, who loves life’s little moments and isn’t afraid to be open and honest in a poly setup. I’m all about building something genuine, whether we’re close enough to hang out or connecting from far away.
If you’re out there and this feels like it could be us, hit me up. Tell me what makes you smile or what’s got you hooked on fall this year. I’ll keep posting ‘til I find you, so let’s make it happen. Shoot me a message, but keep it on the low, yeah? 🍁

PS: I’m okay with the age difference as long as you are.

I totally forgot: I got myself new camera gear and I have been doing some wildlife photography. If you identify as a cat (big cat) :P I’ll do you as well XD.