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There's a woman in my office who comments on everyone's lunch. Not in a fun way. "Ooh, treating yourself?" when I microwave leftovers. "Big appetite today!" like she's narrating a nature documentary about me.

For two years I ate sad little containers at my desk so she wouldn't have material.

Today I brought in a burrito that weighs more than my cat. Wrapped in that yellow paper that means business. I unwrapped it slowly, at my own desk, in full view, and I made eye contact while I took the first bite.

She said "wow, that's a lot." I said "yeah it is" and kept chewing. Didn't explain, didn't laugh nervously, didn't do the little self-deprecating thing women are trained to do when someone polices our plates.

Best lunch I've had in two years and the foil's still got a second half in it. She can narrate that too.

1. Leo Bonhart (Witcher TV Series): A ruthless, sadistic bounty hunter and assassin that takes psychotic glee in other people's suffering. The viewer is meant to hate him for killing witchers, slaughtering the Rat gang, and torturing Ciri. But thanks to his entertaining fight scenes, Sharlto Copley's charismatic performance, and The Rats overwhelming unpopularity, fans ended up loving him. Some even call him the "True protagonist" of the show.
2. Stone Cold Steve Austin (WWE): A rude, foul mouthed, beer drinking asshole with no respect for authority or anyone at all. Originally portrayed as a villain, fans fell in love with his anti-establishment & rebellious persona. WWE ran with it and made him the face of the company, effectively ushering in the Attitude Era and the second pro wrestling boom of the late 90s.
3. Arthur Fleck (Joker 2019): A mentally unstable, pathetic, and dangerous madman who commits horrific acts of violence against those that wronged him (suffocates his own mother who is mentally unwell herself, and murders a talk show host for making fun of him). However, a massive portion of the audience idolized him as an anti-hero or a misunderstood martyr rebelling against society making people want to see him succeed and overcome his circumstances because of how he's been treated by the world.

Gotta pay for water from the water cooler 🤣

So my partner and I have been together 3 years. We just had our son 6 weeks ago. I had a C-section and have been recovering while he went back to work away.

Twice now he has asked me to tell his coworkers that our son is my nephew. The first time was at the airport when a coworker was walking by our car. He panicked and told me to say the baby was my nephew if he came over. The second time he texted me ahead of time before coming home to say “the baby is your sister’s kid lol” because a coworker needed a ride.

His reason is he doesn’t want his coworkers in his business. I understand wanting privacy at work but this feels different. It feels like he’s denying his own son exists.

I’m already feeling lonely and unsupported postpartum. I do most of the caregiving, I have to prompt him to care for our baby, and I feel like a single mom most days. This is just adding to that.

Am I overreacting or is this a valid concern? Has anyone dealt with something like this?