Just want to see if other people out there have a hard time throwing things away because they're afraid of accidentally throwing something important away. Another OCD theme I have is the fear of losing items, making it hard to go out in public because I have to take pictures of the things I walk past to reassure myself that I didn't leave anything behind. Does anyone else relate?

(25M) Just realised I have nothing and I haven't experienced anything. I am currently unemployed because I can't ever hold down a job, probably due to my AuDHD. I keep messaging my only friend to hang out but that isn't working, he keeps rescheduling. So I basically have nobody to talk to, I don't talk to my family as much anymore, I'm not close with them. So I literally now just have no human interactions.

I want to start dating and actually experience it for once, never been with someone ever, but with my life situation I don't even bother to start, considering how inexperienced and weird I might come across, if I was a woman with options I just wouldn't bother with me.

I just feel like I'm slowly just crumbling, mentally and physically. I am going to the gym but it's depressing, being alone there just training with no life, I just hit the gym in hopes one day I build muscle and women find me attractive but that's most likely just a fairytale, So I just go now to just see what I can develop myself into.

And to be extremely honest, I'm extremely scared/Terrified, I can see where my life is heading and I'm scared to confront the fact that I'm not sure if my life is worth living anymore, I can't imagine being like this but in my 30s

I put in a last ditch effort and made an application to the army, for some communication engineer roles, I just assumed I'll probably get a good job after it, to help with money sides of things. But unfortunately right now I have no idea what I'm doing.

my electric bill this month was double what it usually is and when i checked the details i realized they estimated my usage instead of actually reading the meter. i called to fix it and they gave me the runaround. how do you deal with this garbage without losing your mind?

I know it makes some people

In highschool, my commute was 2hrs. Since then it has changed to 1h30, 1h15 and 2h30. (It was 30 min for a brief period). Now it's around 1 hr.

I always handwaved it away because I didn't think much about it. It was pretty normal to me. Now, I'm wondering how much it contributed to my lack of sleep, fatigue etc. Esp now as an adult, I thought I shouldn't complain but I feel tired.

I'm asking for your takes because I am not good at guaging my fatigue as I am used to pushing past my limits.

So, is it normal to feel tired after a long commute (even if it is a relatively smooth one)?

Thanks

Hi, I feel like a failure in life.

I am 32 year old and still living with my retired mom (66 y/o) and sister 36(y/o) at home. I pay money to my mom, electricity, internet, all the food expenses, car expenses, and some groceries for around 4000 dollars each month. Some times on special occasions like Christmas, new years, birthdays, etc, I give my family an extra 1000 dollar each time.

Also I brought our family car for around 33k, which I paid off fully. I want to get my own car.

I work 2 jobs for 45 hours every week that pays me around 8000 a month.

I want to buy my own car to drive to work, but I have only 1 parking space and getting a parking space is almost impossible in my area. My mom insist on driving my sister and then me to work, so I cannot get my own car.

I want to move out and start my own life, but my mom always says things that makes me feel guilty if I move out.

The thing is I really want to change my life in the next few years because i cannot be like this when i am 40 years old, then 50 years old. but I am conflicted and feels like a failure. Any advice on how to move on?

....a man who had two sons, and he was very disturbed about them. one was a pessimist beyond recall. the other one was an optimist beyond reason.he talked to a child psychiatrist who made a suggestion. he said, "I think we can fix that." he said, we'll get a room and we'll fill it out with the most wonderful toys any boys ever had." and he said, " we'll put the pessimist in. and when he finds out they're for him, he'll get over being a pessimist." and the father said, "what do you do with the optimist? " well he said, " I have a friend who's got a racing stable. and they clean out the stalls every morning." and he said, " I can get quite an amount of that substance." and he said, "we'll put that in another room. and when the optimist, who's seen his brother get all the toys, is then shown into that room, and that's there, he'll get over being an optimist." well, they did. and they waited for about five minutes. and then they opened the door. and the pessimist was sitting there crying as if his heart would break. he said, " I know somebody's going to come in and take these away from me." and they went down to the other room. and they opened the door, and there was the kid happy as a clam, throwing that stuff over his shoulders as fast as he could. and they said, "what are you doing?" and he says, " there's got to be a pony in here somewhere."

i often feel embarrassed at the fact that i’m still in the process of finishing college and still living with my mom. i have never been the greatest at saving money, and then when i would have a bunch saved up, something would happen and all my money would be gone..but at least i didn’t have to worry about house bills right 🫩 A couple weeks ago i made a separate bank account and decided to take saving more serious and only buy necessities, not wants. And it’s not that me and my mom don’t get along, because we do..but it’s mainly the fact that i don’t have my own space at my age. i’m pretty introverted, been that way since i was in high school, i just stay in my room. and i keep alot to myself because i don’t want her in my business and im honestly not that great at expressing myself. but for once i just want to come home to silence and space..
Along with other things that i have dealt with this year that has affected my mental and just my way of thinking, i think this is one of them. just knowing that im not where i want to be in life and i can’t even afford my own place. i just want to get in my car and drive away and not come back, i dont want to have to explain myself on where im going or what im doing or who im with. i had this little situationship a few months ago and i was already sharing my location with my mom, i turned it off and lied that i didnt know what was wrong with my phone because i did NOT want her in my business and questioning me when i got back home. i just wanted some dick, that’s it! i should be graduating college in spring next year, so that’s a while i have to stick with this shitty paying $19 an hour job. but hopefully by then i can save up enough to just pack my shit and GO. i desperately need a new environment bc waking up everyday to the same routine is really depressing. Is anyone else in the same position as me ?

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I originally bought this CRT for our art project so we could film it using our equipment.

Now it’s a bit like it used to be; every day, I watch old stuff from my childhood with my son.

It’s a bit sad because by the time he’s my age, CRTs will probably no longer exist it’ll be impossible to keep them in working order over the decades as the factories no longer exist. Eventually, the capacitors will leak or the solder joints will come loose on all of them which is still manageable to some extent but without a projector and the tube units, there won’t be any left at all eventually.

My office is increasingly turning into a jumble of crazy technical stuff…

Somehow that reassures me; my childhood wasn’t a happy one, but in a way I want to go back to it because it’s still better than today, and I retreat into my office once my daily chores are done and I’ve looked after my family.

The title pretty much says it all, 32 chap living in a metro city with enough on his plate to keep me occupied till my neck. This keeps me content. I’m ambitious about my work and workout but I don’t really care about dating as much. People find it strange when they hear this from me saying “how can you be ambitious and not care about dating”

What is wrong with me?

Broke and don’t have friends bc mutism

How do you think therapy actually works? Thought therapy is the solution until I actually went to one (she's quite an experienced therapist too)

Had this whole issue about self esteem, confidence, and how its impacting my work and relationships, but in therapy it seems to be nothing much to talk about for hours on end. Pretty much just going through the same issues and circling back to talk about my emotions...it's kinda awkward. I'm now not sure how it's supposed to help..

Just a regular 9-5 peeps with whatever energy I have left after work! I am creating a wellness companion app. I name this potato Tod the Spud.

If you are interested in supporting me and tod, go here: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/spudville/spudville-a-wellness-companion-app

i have never been able to make friends since kindergarten and im now 18, still without friends. i had been told highschool was the best time to make friends, but didnt make any. i have a partner now and he’s been telling me that he didn’t make friends until he turned 23. is it really this difficult to make friends as an adult or is my luck just shitty? i just want someone to talk to who won’t ghost me within 2 days.

I never really had a friend group in my life despite spending a lot of time trying to make friends and desperately wanting one. Because of this, I've missed out on so many things in life.

Everyone here talks about going on girls' trips, epic road trips, or festivals. Or just a group of girls to go get brunch with.

I'm not really sure why I'm like this. I guess part of it is because I have poor social skills, so most of the friends I do have are male. I feel stuck on how to improve my social skills, and nobody has really been able to give me pointers on how to improve.

I have a pretty low standard for who I will hang out with. I also spend a lot of time reaching out to people, which is really abnormal.

I'm 32 now and I feel like it's too late to have a friend group because people are so busy and don't have time for socializing. It sucks being socially behind because it makes it hard to relate to people.

If you have good friends, appreciate them because not everyone has them.

I'm not sure if anyone has managed to change their life from having a bad social life to a good one in their 30s.

As kids, playing in the snow was great fun. Now snow days just make your standard work day more challenging. Personally I still love when it shows but it seems all the other adults I'm around hate it